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Spirited Messages for Women | Meetings, Retreats & Conferences

Below are descriptions of Sue Bohlin's talks for mothers. These talks work well in nearly any MOPS or mothers' group setting.

Also available are Sue's "Message Series" and "Individual Messages" which are excellent for women of all "ages and stages."

 

Marriage

God's Plan for Marriage

I contrast the culture's caricature of marriage to what God says about it in His word, explaining the dynamics of the husband/wife relationship from a biblical perspective. I also make three suggestions for working with God's plan: Don't be his mother, don't try to fix his life, and don't act like a little girl.

The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands

“Men admittedly are putty in the hands of a woman they love. Give him direct communication, respect, appreciation, food and good lovin’, and he’ll do just about anything you wish—foolish or not.” –Dr. Laura Schlessinger, in her book The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands. I go into helpful detail on these needs of husbands: direct communication, respect, appreciation, and good lovin'.

Trash Your Marriage in 8 Easy Steps

This tongue-in-cheek message provides some humor along with the insight of 8 ways to wreck a marriage—and, of course, how to build it by doing the opposite! The 8 ways are: 1) Be selfish; 2) Pick at each other; 3) Let the kids become more important than your husband 4) Show disrespect for him, especially in public; 5) Refuse to meet his emotional needs; 6) Treat your girlfriends better than your husband; 7) Be his mother instead of lover; 8) When you're angry, blow up.

Love Busters

This message is taken from the writings of experienced marriage counselor Dr. Willard Harley, author of His Needs Her Needs. I cover the following "Love Busters," which destroy oneness and intimacy in marriage: Selfish Demands, Disrespectful Judgments, Angry Outbursts, Annoying Behavior, and Dishonesty.

Intimate Issues

We get REAL in this talk! Drawing on the book by the same name, I answer these questions: Why Did God give the gift of sex? What does He thinks of it? What do I do when I don't want to do it? What's not OK in bed? What about oral sex?

Intimacy Killers in Marriage

We cover these topics, which keep us from experiencing the oneness and intimacy our hearts long for: not giving your husband what he needs the most—respect; being his mother, not his wife; insisting he do things your way; unexpressed expectations; and crushes on other men.

Why Marriages Fail

There are four “weenie” (WENI) behaviors, totally avoidable, that most contribute to the breakup of healthy, loving marriages: Withdrawal and avoidance, Escalation, Negative interpretation, and Invalidation. Don’t be a “WENI”: learn to save your marriage by identifying and stopping these hurtful ways of relating.

Helping Your Husband Become More Sensitive

Gary Smalley has 5 Principles to communicate indirectly and get results: 1) Learn to express your feelings through three loving attitudes: warmth, empathy, and sincerity. 2) Learn to share your feelings when angry or irritated without using "you" statements. 3) Learn to wait until your anger or feelings of irritability have subsided before you begin to discuss a sensitive issue. 4) Share feelings calmly. 5) Abandon "I told you so" statements.


Children

Boys Are From Mars, Girls Are From Venus: Raising Gender Healthy Kids

I contrast the differences between girls and boys to equip moms to have realistic expectations about their children and heighten appreciation for the strengths of both. Celebrating our children's gender is an essential part of building a healthy sense of gender identity so they won't struggle with same-sex issues when they're older. This is my most popular MOPS message, and the subject of the book I’m writing.

5 Love Languages

This message is taken from Dr. Gary Chapman’s classic book on love languages, focusing on our children: focused attention, gifts, physical touch, words of affirmation, and acts of service.

Disciplining Your Children

Topics covered: Have realistic expectations. Speak softly. Give focused attention. Detach. Decide on what the rules are, and the consequences. Discipline at home and the classroom. The strong-willed child.

Raising Godly Children

The real key to raising godly children is by modeling some of God’s attributes to our children: by being godly parents. Some of His attributes are especially important in parenting: love, consistency, respectful, communicator, truth. I offer lots of practical help in working this out in our families.

Supernatural Parenting

Parenting is too big and too hard a task for mere humans. Good thing God makes His power available to us! This message teaches the core of what it means to live the Christian life, in His strength, with illustrations and examples related to parenting.

Teaching Our Children About God

Use teachable moments to fulfill the Bible’s command to parents to teach about Him. I walk through the “Big Story” of God’s book and His plan for people so moms can know it for themselves. And we talk about teaching children to pray.

Shaming Families, Grace-Based Families

I contrast the differences in families marked by shaming each other, and those families that operate by extending grace to each other: the way they treat each other, the words they speak, their expectations of each other, and more.

 


Personal Growth

Boundary Basics

John Townsend and Henry Cloud’s book Boundaries ranks right up there with the Bible for essential reading and practice for healthy people. The foundations of understanding and setting boundaries, as well as maintaining them without feeling guilty, are covered.

Conflict Resolution

The Bible gives the world’s best counsel on how to deal with conflict so that it honors everyone involved. But there are ways to avoid unnecessary conflict as well, and it’s wise to be aware of those strategies too.

Changing our Negative Self-Talk

I identify a long list of lies ("old tapes") we tell ourselves, messages from parents, childhood classmates, the media, and ourselves. We are in bondage to these tapes, especially if we don’t even realize they are there. After identifying each lie, I provide the biblical truth with which to fight the old tape.

Equipped for Service (Spiritual Gifts)

An overview of spiritual gifts, which are God’s special, supernatural empowering for believers. I cover the 12 ministry gifts, many of which are needed for MOPS groups!

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